I know that many women struggle with feeling like their husband is not being the "spiritual head of the home" that they desire him to be. They wonder how they can fix it, or make him take on that roll. The fact is, that you can't MAKE him fill that role the way YOU want him to. God must change your husband from within, and you must remember that all men were created with different personalities and characteristics. Just because your husband doesn't do the things that "so and so" does, doesn't mean he's not spiritual. How would you like to be compared to someone else's wife? The last thing I want is for my husband to dwell all day about how I don't cook, clean, dress, act, etc., like "so and so's" wife. God gave you to each other....remember to pray for one another, love and accept one another for who God created you to be, not for who you think they ought to be.
With that being said, I read a great post lately that has tips on how you can ENCOURAGE your husband to be the spiritual leader in your home. There is nothing un-biblical about encouraging one another. I highly suggest you go check it out. Traci is a wonderful, godly woman with many encouraging things to share. Read her post *here*!